‘I will know love when I realize…. I must open my heart if I want to feel love!
No words can bring back what you believe was taken from you or fix what you believe to be broken in your heart. No matter what is said, or how it is said, words cannot heal or open a heart that has been closed by pain. When your heart has been closed in anger or fear, only the power of love can open it.
There is absolutely no-thing anyone can say or do to make you trust them once they have betrayed you. You will not depend on someone once they have let you down. No matter how hard they may try, no one can find the words that will make you forgive them once you have decided you cannot. In either of these states, you are not open to love. You are holding on to grievances, judgements, expectations or demands. You seek punishment or revenge. And no matter what anyone may say or do, you will not feel fulfilled. In this state, you are not open to love. Instead you intent on the punishment of yourself and others.
Many of us have had the experience of shutting our hearts down. We do it unconsciously to protect ourselves. We do it in response to the pain of losing love. We do it to the ward off the desperation of unrequited love. You see, when a heart goes into shutdown, the love that is required can not come from someone else. It is a love you must bring forth from within yourself. This is the love required to heal, and it cannot get in or get out as long as you are holding on to grievances, judgements, expectations or demands.
Until today, you may have closed your heart to protect yourself. Just for today, open the doors of your heart. Release all grievances you are holding against others. Allow one person to do something nice for you, say something nice to you. If your heart does not open just a little bit today, try it again tomorrow.
Today I will open my heart to express and experience the love we deserve.’
‘Until Today – Iyanla Vanzart’